On Saber-Tooth Babies and Learning the Fine Relational Art of Compromise

I want a cat, but my mom is allergic. What can I do? – PandaBear900

Hello.  You may have gotten a question from my daughter asking about cats. My question is: How do I get my kids to stop asking for more pets?!  – Panda’s Parent

Dear PandaBear900 and her Parent,

It’s a tale as old as time.  When my great-great-great dogparents were lying about around the fire, their human pals Ugh and Oog were having the same conversation that you and your parent are having.

“Me want this.”  Ugh beats his chest and points to the confused-looking baby saber-tooth tiger sitting at his feet.

“Me don’t.”  Ooh stomps his foot and looks at the saber-tooth cub with shock and annoyance.

And so on it goes.  It’s one of those things that happens when you live in a community (and a family is a type of community) and you have a sense of self.

Ants and bees don’t have this problem.  They have the blessing (and curse) of hive mind, where they each have a task and do it without having personal wants, needs, and dreams to muse about.  No self, no problem. Individuality can be a real pain in the rump. Continue reading On Saber-Tooth Babies and Learning the Fine Relational Art of Compromise